“Kind words cost nothing but to the recipient they may mean everything”–R. Shalom Freifeld, Z”L
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There is no other human being exactly like you.
You are a treasure and your life is a journey.
Write down your dreams. Write down your goals. Write down your intentions. Written words are powerful.
Speak your truth. Get involved. Write your story. Design your life. Create your reality.
You are the master of your creation.
“To all the girls who no longer believe in fairy tales or happy endings. You are the writer of this story. Chin up and straighten your crown, you’re the queen of this kingdom and only you know how to rule it. ” B. Devine
How many times have you blamed your parents, sibling, friends, teachers, or other significant person in your life for a challenging situation?
We’ve all been there and done that.
I have learned to accept that everything that happens in my life is my own responsibility. I’ve learned to be grateful to everyone in my life – even the person that has hurt me the most – because that person is my greatest teacher.
What are your thoughts?
I recently read a blogpost entitled, 26, UNMARRIED, AND CHILDLESS, by Amanda Bast(@AmandaMBast). I reached out to her via Twitter, and asked her for permission to write about her post on this website. (She gracefully agreed).
In her post, Amanda describes her feelings when she is questioned about her plans to get married and start a family:
So when you — friends, family, acquaintances, Twitter followers and blog readers — remind me that I’m far behind where one would expect to be at my age, it makes me feel broken. I feel like I’ve done something wrong. I feel like I’m letting you down or making some horrible mistake.
Ms. Bast continues: “Instead of relishing in the freedom, blessings and limitless possibilities that this stage of life offers me, I am left frozen, feeling like I’m not enough. Like what I’ve done doesn’t really matter or that I’ve accomplished nothing. I’m an outcast. I’m defective. I’m panicked. When you comment on my life stage as if there was something I could do to change it, it makes me feel inadequate. Most days I truly do love where I’m at right now, but when people question my marital status, I think I’m messing up my chances to do anything worthwhile with my life”.
It is impossible to continuously live up to the expectations of others. I applaud Ms. Bast for having the courage to share her feelings about this very sensitive issue. Thank you for so beautifully expressing what many feel on a daily basis.
Peer pressure occurs throughout our life – whether we are a child, teen, young adult, adult, or senior citizen. Our journey is an individual journey that we share with those we love. The goal is to follow our journey without allowing us to get sidetracked by the expectations of others.
“When we learn to truly love and care for ourselves, the way others treat us will change…..by what we draw to us and/or release from us. If I am allowing mistreatment then something is off in how I am loving and caring for me. This is always where the work must begin…within. This can sometimes be a challenge for those who have lived a long lifetime of abuse…but it’s the only way to stop the madness. We get the life we THINK we deserve.” – Donna Garden
This quote originated in social media, and I asked the author to formally submit it to this site.
According to Donna, this post originated by pondering “that we can often allow something because we believe it is what is helping us to change us…which is true to a certain degree. But, perhaps we have it turned around in some circumstances…perhaps we need to allow the inner change so that we no longer believe we deserve this in our lives to begin with.”
I noted a few other observations from the media stream:
- “I want what’s best for everyone involved .. *including myself*”.-A.F.R.
- Being self-sacrificial is not healthy.
- “You change and others around you do as well”.-T.R.
- “Some people are so self-absorbed, abusive, addicted, and hate themselves so much that they are unable to respond to genuine love. No person who loves their self should allow abuse and extreme neglect from another person. I believe they should seek freedom and love them from a distance. Sometimes not enabling others to harm us can be the greatest demonstration of love to them that there is”. ….Love can and does reach out, and it really changes people. Having been on the receiving end of abuse and neglect, I have seen it happen in my own life, and the amazing thing is I have seen my greatest enemy and abuser transform into a friend who loves me… All because I put a stop to the abuse and never stopped offering love from a safe distance. It took years, but I was so excited when this happened! -J.H.
- Self love with BOUNDARIES are key. It’s not about them, but YOU.-T.K
- Walk away…and hold their memory in your heart. Just my journey: The more I own my family of origin issues I can see the reason why I was drawn to my spouse….I married what I knew. NOW that I am on the road to health, I can see him from a different perspective: one of compassion…not only for HIM, but for all people. -T.K.
The moment when it ‘clicked’ for me was when I understood that I am not responsible for someone else’s happiness. Happiness is within. That’s when I finally said NO MORE to abusive and nasty behavior and I WALKED AWAY from that which was unhealthy for me and for my children.
They say that beauty is only skin deep. I want to challenge you today to feel glamourous.
When was the last time you felt glamourous?
What were you doing?
Describe the smell, taste, feel, sound?
Describe your surroundings?
The most important element of that time & place is YOU!
You are EXCEPTIONAL!
You ARE Beautiful!
Beauty Starts With YOU!
